M & M's

This is one of my favorite candies. A simple package, but inside there is a bunch of candy waiting for you. Isn’t that just like a man? A simple, unmistakable package, you look at the wrapping and know exactly what you are getting right?

Wrong.

That is what they want us to think, they are just this simple man with a great package. The description is right there and tells us all we need to know about the contents within. You can browse the candy aisle and know without a doubt that you are getting milk chocolate with a colored candy coating that melts in your mouth but not in your hands.

When you open the bag, the pieces come out and you find that marketing did a great job selling you something that was not true. All those colorful candy pieces won’t melt in your hands eventually turn into the colorful lies that he hands you. That leads me right back to that scripture Proverbs 26:28

It is sad what we will make ourselves believe when we really want something. When a man does something wrong and we catch him, he automatically gives us a colorful little lie. Just like candy, he feeds them to us one at a time. When we have the proof and confront him, he will turn it around, blame us for not getting along, and make us feel guilty. That just leads to more fights until eventually the colorful lies he was trying to feed us melt in his hands. Time after time, we play this out and take him another chance when he comes back around with a new package of those sweet little morsels telling us how sorry he is.

It is funny how I can sit back now and look at the ‘album’. I see all the pictures that show all the lies as colorful little pieces and I can literally sort them out in groups, each color represents a different phase of lies. Looking at them all spread out in front of me now, the candy does not look so sweet.

I realized that you could sit there and feel sorry for yourself looking at them and the lies each candy represents. You can cry as you swallow each one down and carry it with you. Or, you can pack up every piece, shove it back in the package, send it right back where it came from, and slam the proverbial door shut.

When you have made up your mind and you are at a loss for what to do next, go get your bible and get in the word of the only truth there is. God will never leave you nor forsake you. I have cried plenty of ‘why me’, ‘poor me’ and yes even the ‘why am I not good enough’ tears to know that if he wanted me he would have tried, yet he did not. Guess it just means they are not man enough to handle good women.

When His timing is right, when we are seeking His will, God will bless us. We can not take something that God did not give us, when we do we are opening ourselves up to those lies. "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness" 2 Corinthians 12:9. When we take on things that He does not intend for us and we are heartbroken because it does not work out the way we wanted, God’s grace is all we need. When we admit we cannot do it alone, we confirm that God is all we need. The man He intends for us to have, will not need to sugar coat anything, he will be all we need.

There are not enough colorful candy morsels in that little brown bag to match the sweetness of God’s offering.

God and chocolate…two things every woman needs.

That is definitely true for me, although it would be nice to have more, i.e.; a great pair of the latest shoes, with of course the perfect outfit and accessories all on my ‘perfect to me’ body while on the strong and muscular arm of ‘him’ that one perfect guy.

Reality check…there is NO perfect guy. This ain’t Hollywood girls and as much as we like to dress up and play make believe, when it comes down to it, that is all we are doing-believing in something that is not there and making something out of nothing.

I have done that my whole life. Tried to make my reality look better then it is by adding the pink packaging and ‘acting’ as if life is better then it is. I hate it when I wake up, don’t you?

The only man I NEED in my life is GOD. (Note the period…it ends the sentence) I may want a man. I may think I need a man. I may want to need a man. Unless God brings me a man, then the man I try to put in my life is not going to be the man I need, rather he is just going to fill time and space and probably cause a few tears. Put that in perspective, if I take on a relationship with a man that God did not intend for me, I am just as much to blame for my hurt as he is, because I allowed that.

I learned a very valuable lesson from a man recently. He told me a man (even a Christian man) would tell a girl anything in order to be with her. That hit me like a ton of bricks because I always want to believe the good in people no matter what and take them for their word. So when this man told me that every man will lie to get a girl to do what he wants, it was a big set back. Proverbs 26:28 ’A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin. ‘ Simply put, be on guard girls, a man may look good in his talk and actions, but look for those tall tale signs that trouble lurks behind that oh so perfect smile. (More on that in the future)

So how can I as a Christian woman know when to trust a man? The simple answer, seek God. (Note the period again) ‘A woman’s heart should be so lost in God that a man must seek HIM to find her.' We will know the man God chooses for us when we seek HIM not him!

…until then, have a piece of chocolate and enjoy!